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Love vs Arranged Marriage

MuhammedNihal Prof. Ta Bao 11/8/11 Marriage; Love and Arranged: An annotated Bibliography. Johnson, Laura. “A tradition of love: Couple intend to make their arranged marriage last. ” Anniston Star, The (AL) 14 Feb. 2011: Newspaper Source. Web. 5 Nov. 2011. The above source is cited in MLA format. This particular article is from the newspaper named Aniston star . The staff writer Laura, Johnson interviewed a couple about how they got married and how they make their marriage last. How does the tradition play the part in their marriage?

It will help me build up my paper on tradition in different cultures about marriages and about love in marriages. Al-Johar, Denise. “Muslim Marriages In America: Reflecting New Identities. ” Muslim World 95. 4 (2005): 557-574. Academic Search Premier. Web. 5 Nov. 2011. This article addresses some aspects of Muslim marriages in the U. S. in 2005. Marriage among Muslims in the country reflects varying degrees of movement beyond ethnic or national origin traditions. How strongly Muslims born or raised in the U. S. identify with the cultural heritage of their immigrant parents affects the choices they make with respect to marriage.

One way of finding a spouse is through an arranged marriage. None of the couples with arranged marriages had ever met before parents or relatives brought them to each other’s attention. Myers, Jane B. , Jayamala Madathil, and Lynne R. Tingle. “Marriage Satisfaction And Wellness In India And The United States: A Preliminary Comparison Of Arranged Marriages And Marriages Of Choice. ” Journal Of Counseling ; Development 83. 2 (2005): 183-190. Academic Search Premier. Web. 5 Nov. 2011. Forty-five individuals (22 couples and 1 widowed person) living in arranged marriages in India completed questionnaires measuring marital satisfaction and wellness. The data were compared with existing data on individuals in the United States living in marriages of choice. Differences were found in importance of marital characteristics, but no differences in satisfaction were found. Differences were also found in 9 of 19 wellness scales between the 2 groups. Implications for further research are considered. Hortacsu, Nuran. “Family- Versus Couple-Initiated Marriages In Turkey: Similarities And Differences Over The Family Life Cycle. ” Asian Journal Of Social Psychology 10. 2 (2007): 103-116.

Academic Search Premier. Web. 8 Nov. 2011. The above source is formatted in MLA format. The present study aimed to investigate marital relationships of the Urban Turkish family. Questionnaires were given to both members of 430 couples at various stages of the marriage cycle. Information concerning demographic characteristics, spousal feelings, marital functioning, including division of labor and satisfaction with division of labor, decision-making, and conflict; and relationships with social network, including feelings for families of origin and frequency of interaction with families was obtained.

Results revealed that in comparison to family-initiated marriages, couple-initiated marriages were more emotionally involving; less enmeshed with families, more egalitarian, and involved fewer conflicts. However, over successive stages of the marital cycle, conflict declined in family-initiated marriages and division of labor became less equalitarian in couple-initiated marriages. No differences between the two types of marriage emerged with respect to decision-making and conflict management style.

Wives were reportedly more influential with respect to decisions concerning families and children than their husbands in both types of marriage. Couples at later stages of the marital cycle reported lower emotional involvement and less equalitarian division of labor. Relationships between educational level and various marital measures were also obtained. The results are discussed in relation to the possibly different marital schema entertained by men and women within the modernizing context of Turkey and with respect to possibly different effects of modernization on ifferent aspects of marriage. Andrea Mcneely, et al. “Beliefs About Romantic Relationships: Gender Differences Among Undergraduates. ” College Student Journal43. 2 (2009): 276-284. Academic Search Premier. Web. 8 Nov. 2011. Three-hundred-and-twenty six undergraduates at a large southeastern university completed an anonymous 74-item questionnaire designed to assess beliefs about men, women, and relationships. Significant differences between men’s and women’s beliefs about romantic relationships were found on eight of 14 items.

Men were significantly more likely to believe that cohabitation improves marriage, that bars are good places to meet a potential mate, that men control relationships, and that people will “cheat” if they feel they will not be caught. In contrast, women were significantly more likely to believe that love is more important than factors like age and race in choosing a mate, that couples stop “trying” after they marry, and that women know when their men are lying. Implications and limitations of the data are suggested. Wilcox, W. Bradford Dew, Jeffrey. “Is Love A Flimsy Foundation? Soulmate Versus Institutional Models Of Marriage.  Social Science Research 39. 5 (2010): 687. MasterFILE Premier. Web. 8 Nov. 2011. Steven Nock argued that love was a flimsy foundation for relationships and that the institution of marriage provided a firmer footing for stable, high-quality relationships than love alone. Relying on data from the Marriage Matters Survey of 1414 married men and women in Louisiana (1998–2004), I extended Nock’s insights to consider whether contemporary marriages organized along institutional lines enjoyed more stability, satisfaction, and less conflict than marriages organized around a soul mate model.

Largely consistent with Nock’s perspective, I found that individuals who embraced norms of marital permanency and gender specialization and were embedded in social networks and religious institutions enjoyed high-quality stable marriages, so long as they also focused on the expressive dimension of married life. By contrast, spouses who embraced a soul mate model of marriage experienced high levels of satisfaction but also experienced high levels of conflict and divorce. Finally, spouses who embraced traditional norms about marriage without the benefit of social support for those norms reported low levels of marital quality.

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